Remember that emotions live in your body, so speak directly to where these emotions have taken up residence. Consider calling out the specific parts of your body that you feel the pain the most. You command this pain to leave, so call it out with conviction.

For example, “My heart will let go from all guilt and shame and fill with love.”

There is no “perfect” way to do it, you are ready when you feel that the intention covers everything you wish to accomplish.

Each candlewick will support the ceremonial cord that you’ll be cutting.

Ensure the area is free of curious pets, children, familiars, and anything that creates a safety hazard.

For general safety, this ritual is best performed outside with a hose nearby.

Have your written intention at hand

Make sure you lite both wicks.

The flame will often go out; you need to reignite it.

Allow the process to proceed, relighting the flames as needed but know that this is natural.

While the wick is lit, state your intention allowed and with conviction seven times. If the flame goes out remember just relight it.

Start with a normal tone, but each time state it louder and with more emotional intensity.

This builds up the energy that will permanently cut the cord.

Now comes the critical moment we have been building towards – It’s time to cut the cord.

Take several calming breaths and feel the weight melt away from your mind, down your neck and shoulders and away from your heart.

Take a single deep breath and enjoy a very long exhale.

Cut the string connecting the two candles at the end of the exhale.